“But I don’t want to be Insecure!” Korea Steger, Clark Atlanta University

Ok Issa Rae, we get it. Some of us are insecure. But we don’t have to stay that way. As women, many of us have the tendency to compare ourselves. Whether we are comparing ourselves to Instagram models or the other women we see on campus…we do it. My development as a confident young woman, has been a process, but it is worth it.

I have struggled with insecurities for many years, and I know many other women my age struggle with some of the same issues. Growing up, I was told that I am pretty, beautiful, and smart, but there was always that other side. That other side that doubted myself from being bullied, called ugly and picked on repeatedly. As a child, I never understood why such negative things were said to me, but it led to the development of my insecurities. I started to say the same things to myself and I always seemed to bottle up the emotions I had inside. Those emotions didn’t breakthrough until I reached high school.

In high school, when I expressed my emotions, it was in many different ways, but none of them were productive. After four long years of high school and not knowing how to cope with my insecurities, I was starting college. And I must say, college will teach you so much about yourself. I’ve found myself, and I learned how to love myself more than I ever have. A message to you, the pretty girl who seems to struggle with her insecurities: you do not have to wait to overcome those insecurities. There are so many outlets for you to discover that will help you overcome. How are we going to beat these insecurities? Well, Pretty girl, don’t give up yet, keep searching and keep learning. This is only the beginning.

Have you struggled with insecurities in your past? How did you grow in this area? What advice would you give others?

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  • Jahi Flowers says:

    Insecurity has always found its way into my life as a young man. But the problem was often how I dealt with it, by putting myself down because I interested in alternative activities like mediation, yoga, and art. However, most of my insecurities often pertained to societies perspective on masculinity and materialistic possessions. I never did meet society’s high expectations of what it means to be a successful black man, I have found peace in exceeding my own expectations and internally validating myself. My advice to people who struggle with insecurity is to focus on what makes you happy and to surround yourself with genuine people who make you smile.

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